Ask the Right Questions First

OK. You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.

A Man’s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

A Few Things I Have Learned From Women Who Have Dumped Me

I have been happily married for over six years now. However, along the way there are a few things I have learned from women who have dumped me. I know, I know, it may be hard to believe that I have ever been dumped for those that know me. But yes it is true, I have been dumped. I have been dumped on harder than a cow pasture in Texas, on a late July morning, after feeding time.

Now that you have that picture branded into your brain, I will tell you a few things I have learned. All women are crazy!!! No, just kidding. What I have learned is not all women are going to love you. As hard as that is to believe for some of you; it’s true. There is a thing called chemistry, and it is tougher to figure out in life than it was in high school. There are some women you have it with and some you don’t. That’s just a part of life.

Something else I have learned is all women are different. Not a single one of them are the same. Look I know you’ve heard that saying “all women are the same”. That is a lie my friend, and if you really believe it, you will always be dumped by women. So don’t ever treat them all the same or ever call them the same name. For some reason they just don’t like that.

Now, back to the women are crazy part. No not all women are crazy. But brother, there are some that are as loony as the cartoons we use to watch when we were kids. I say this because I have rode that crazy train, and I don’t ever want to buy that ticket again. You have heard that saying “you don’t know what you have till it’s gone”. Well, when dating a crazy woman you know what you got and you can’t wait till it’s gone.

Out of the few things I have learned from women who have dumped me … the most important thing is… I have to thank all the women who have dumped me, every single one of them. Because if it wasn’t for the ones I couldn’t please Or the one’s that were just plain nutty, I would have never found the one I have been happily married to for six years now.

Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”

So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!